Do you find yourself yearning for the sense of connection and feeling that you had in the early part of your relationship? Do you feel lonely in marriage?
It is possible to live together and be alone. In my work with couples, we work to restore the parts of your marriage that create intimacy and connection – the very opposite of loneliness.
When you first fell in love you may have been enamored by your ability to communicate. In the beginning, you may have felt: “he’s interested when I talk,” “she gets me,” or “I open up like I never opened up before”.
So, how did I get so alone in my marriage?
The pressures of daily life tend to crowd out our listening skills. Over time, loneliness tends to grow slowly. Sometimes, over a period of years, we can gradually grow disconnected from our spouse. The result is that we can feel lonely in marriage.
Did you notice when animated conversations about shared interests, ambitions, goals and dreams gave way entirely to the daily business of running your household? Sometimes keeping up with finances (“Did you pay the electric bill?”) or the stresses of parenting can take the place of real, meaningful emotional connection.
Did you and your spouse fall into routines that create distance? Do you go to sleep early while your spouse stays up late? Do you work on the computer while your spouse reads or watches TV in another room? Over time, you can develop separate and parallel lives that erode love and affection.
Learn to take back your relationship – you don’t have to stay lonely in your marriage
You can learn how to re-activate your relationship. You can recreate the love, affection, communication, and sharing that make being married fun. In therapy, you will learn skills and techniques to deepen marital bonds.
You don’t have to feel alone
Reach out to Marcia Kesner for help. Learn how to repair your relationship. Learn how to move beyond old hurts. To learn more or arrange an appointment in Brooklyn or online, call 212-887-0916 today, or fill out the contact form and click Send.Please share this post!